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Seeing big what is small…
Or seeing small what seems too big
The melting in the 40 degrees heat, the prices of basic goods that jump from one day to the next, the cases of covid that never end… We are all immersed in the tide of information that does not inspire optimism… In a climate like this, one minimum thing can cause frustration: a simple line too long at the gas station, a person who blocks your passage in the midst of the chaos of the supermarket.
We looked for 5 tips with which it can be easier to manage impatience. See if anything can help you… It is part of slowing down
1. Release your anger:
You can do it with physical exercise: running, some battle sports, sometimes you just need to do a little gardening or clean your house thoroughly… It is important that no one is harmed by this outburst. The nervous system rests also with breathing exercises: try to repeat this sequence 10 times: inhale air for a count of 4, hold the air for a count of 6, exhale the air for a count of 8.
2. Be grateful
Don’t wait to feel gratitude for the big and important things. Be grateful and everything will become important and big… Dale Carnige in his book “How to overcome stress and start living” points out that if you have the roof over your head, the fridge in which you find things for the next 2-3 meals, running water, electricity, you are luckier than every fifth inhabitant of this earth. It is useless to compare yourself to others. Everyone faces problems with their own measure: someone turns off his Mercedes in the middle of the traffic of a big city, someone comes off the insole of his shoe, leaving him to work barefoot until the end of the month… but in front of our problems we all react with the same emotions. This is why it is better to compare oneself with yesterday’s self than with someone else today.
3. Box your problems
Try to fix your problems according to the logic of the boxes: the car box, the job box, the family box. Try to make sure that problems affecting one aspect of your life do not affect others. There is no need to vent your frustration in the family because a project at work stumbles on every step. You can also box whole days: the Monday box is not the same as the Tuesday box. And even if it is closed with the garbage inside, it doesn’t matter, it remains closed, and every day it allows you to open a new box in which you can put new experiences, encounters, achievements (and failures).
4. Exercise: Could it be worse?
In moments when you feel frustration with small things, try to do the exercise: could it be worse? Let’s give an example: you injure your finger while preparing dinner for your family members, you are in a hurry, so any minute wasted on band-aids, hydrogen peroxide, etc. makes you more anxious… What could be worse? You may not have family members and things to prepare for this dinner, you may not only injure your finger, but actually take it off due to an accident… Thinking like this helps to reduce your problems… also because almost all the little worries of every day are forgotten over time – both from yourself and from the people around you.
5. Help others
Stop worrying about yourself. Help others. Living constantly in self-awareness, especially when something doesn’t work at all, can be really stressful… Why help others?
- You can get positive feedback, much needed when your problems overwhelm you
- Focusing on someone else’s problem helps reduce your own
- Helping others teaches humility and can evoke gratitude.